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17 quotes
Nigerian writer (born 1977)
“The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we ´should' be rather than recognizing how we are.”
"Be a full person. Motherhood is a glorious gift, but do not define yourself solely by motherhood. Be a full person. Your child will benefit from that."
on Identity
"Power is the ability not just to tell the story of another person, but to make it the definitive story of that person."
on Power
"We do not just risk repeating history if we sweep it under the carpet, we also risk being myopic about our present."
on History
"You must never behave as if your life belongs to a man. Do you hear me?” Aunty Ifeka said. “Your life belongs to you and you alone."
on Life
"I think you travel to search and you come back home to find yourself there."
"And it's wrong of you to think that love leaves room for nothing else. It's possible to love something and still condescend to it."
on Love
"There are many different ways to be poor in the world but increasingly there seems to be one single way to be rich."
on Economy
"Now imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations."
on Happiness
"The language of marriage is often a language of ownership, not a language of partnership."
on Relationships
"Don’t see it as forgiving him. See it as allowing yourself to be happy. What will you do with the misery you have chosen? Will you eat misery?"
"A father is as much a verb as a mother."
"We never actively remember death,' Odenigbo said. The reason we live as we do is because we do not remember that we will die. We will all die."
"Sometimes life begins when the marriage ends"
"The truth has become an insult."
on Truth
"Because when there is true equality, resentment does not exist."
on Philosophy
"If the sun refuses to rise we will make it rise"
on Inspirational
